There comes a time when we realize that we’re not those 20-somethings anymore. Bones seem to creak a bit more, weight settles around our middles and we notice more grey hairs and wrinkles. While that can be upsetting, I find it empowering.
As a glass 1/2 full kind of gal, I suspect my views are not the norm, but that doesn’t stop me from sharing them in hopes that I can help someone else. Because for me, I’m proud that I’ve made it this far (just over 50, not quite to double nickels 55) and I own my age. I own all those wrinkles that are from being out in the sun and laughing or frowning. Covid’s done a bit to the belly region, but it’s nothing I can’t figure out as Spring invigorates me to get out and walk in the sunshine. While I do dye my hair from time to time, but I started turning grey at a young age so it’s not something new.
What’s so empowering to me about mid-life?
All the experiences I’ve endured and I’m still here. That’s first and foremost. I’m a cancer survivor (almost 20 years in fact) and I’ve got a body full of scars to prove it. I’m divorced and have gone through so much to heal because of it. I’ve lost loved ones, including my parents, so now I am embracing the freedom that comes with the technicality that there’s no one above me that I need to please. While I miss my parents and loved ones terribly, there’s a spark of independence that had ignited within me now that I never had before. I am not sure I can explain it better than that, but if you’ve been in a similar situation, perhaps you understand. I’m happy being single even though I have not lost the hope of finding love again. I hope that one day I can share my life again with a good man. In the meantime, I’m sharing my life with my kids, my friends and connecting with so many different people through blogging and I’m loving it!
I wake up every morning happy and excited to see how the day unfolds. It’s part of my nature, but it’s also a choice for me. I could concentrate on the negative in my life (because there is some of that), but instead I choose to be grateful for what I have and to look to help others to find peace.
I love that mid-life allows us to reinvent ourselves – to take the best of us and improve it in ways that we probably hadn’t imagined prior to now. It’s like a whole new chapter that I’m embracing and that’s how Joyful Change came to me.
One of my favorite quotes is:
When you change the way you look at things,
the things you look at change.Dr. Wayne Dyer
Don’t fear change. Don’t fear mid-life! Embrace it and you will find possibilities everywhere! This is your life so please, please live it to it’s fullest!
Let me show you how because the possibilities are endless!