The theme with clients lately encompasses the fear of speaking their truth. Sometimes it’s a battle between worrying about if someone will like the truth they have to share or not, and the consequences of speaking their truth. Sometimes it has to do with not feeling empowered enough to say what they want or that they feel sensitive to their perceived thoughts about it – “I want a raise and I deserve one. But I’m worried they’re thinking that I’m thinking – Who do you think you are?” Etc. Etc.
Sometimes it’s in reference to relationships and how they’re working (or not). We can get into a rut at times and not know how to get out of it – we’re not happy with how things are going, but we don’t want to mess up the friendship/relationship by pointing out our needs for fear of ‘upsetting the apple cart’ (have you heard that expression before? – my Mom used to say it!).
Sometimes, we’ve just had enough and we need a clean slate. We want to change it all up and begin again or we’ve had everything go wonky and we are forced to begin again because of new circumstances. Either way, it’s difficult to find solid ground when we feel like the wind has been taken from our sails and we’ve been swept out to sea without a paddle. But, my friends, to begin again from almost scratch may be the most rewarding of all. Because when everything’s been taken, we can remind ourselves that we are the authors of our own book, our own journey, this next chapter and we can write it the way we choose.
Do any of the above ring true for you? If so, I’ve found that there are ways to have our needs met and meet the needs of the important people in our lives when we share with care. Care for the timing, how we say it, and what we say in order to get what needs to happen.
Whatever age you currently are makes the time ripe for your to share your needs. It’s timeless. It’s not just for midlifers. It’s for us all. You just have to know in your heart of hearts that it’s time. That you deserve it. That this is YOUR LIFE and how you choose to live it is your choice, your decision – all while remembering that we only pass through this day once so seizing the moment is crucial.
By the way, when my clients did finally decide to speak up and say what they wanted, it worked out beautifully! Their needs were met, the relationships improved and their happiness quotients went up dramatically! Win Win Win!
One even told me afterwards: “I didn’t believe you. I didn’t think I could do it. Even after we practiced, I was skeptical. But I won’t doubt you OR ME again! We did it! Thank you for holding my hand!”
What’s stopping you from saying what you want? Let’s talk about it and see how we can help you to live a life you enjoy living! Reach out. I’m here!
Joyful Change With Yvonne 