A Reminder To Moms Everywhere

I came across this story recently and it struck a nerve with me. I related to this story and I read it with inspiration that began to palpitate within me. I had never heard the phrase MESPONSIBLE, but it makes complete sense. Isn’t this part of raising our children?

Read on and let me know what you think…does it resonate with you too? Happy Sunday.

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My mom did not sleep. She felt exhausted. She was irritable, grumpy, and bitter. She was always sick until one day, suddenly, she changed.

One day my Dad said to her: I’ve been looking for a job for three months and I haven’t found anything, I’m going to have a few beers with friends.

My Mom replied: It’s okay.

My brother said to her: Mom, I’m doing poorly in all subjects at the University.

My Mom replied: Okay, you will recover, and if you don’t, well, you repeat the semester, but you pay the tuition.

My sister said to her: Mom, I smashed the car.

My Mom replied: Okay daughter, take it to the car shop and find how to pay and while they fix it, get around by bus or subway.

Her daughter-in-law said to her: Mother-in-law, I came to spend a few months with you.

My Mom replied: Okay, settle in the living room couch and look for some blankets in the closet.

All of us gathered, worried to see these reactions coming from Mom.

We suspected that she had gone to the doctor and that she was prescribed some pills called “I don’t give a damn”… Perhaps she was overdosing on these!

We then proposed to do an “intervention” with Mom to remove her from any possible addiction she had towards some anti-tantrum medication.

But then… she gathered us around her and my Mom explained:

It took me a long time to realize that each person is responsible for their life. It took me years to discover that my anguish, anxiety, my depression, my courage, my insomnia & my stress, does not solve your problems but aggravates mine.

I am not responsible for the actions of anyone & it’s not my job to provide happiness but I am responsible for the reactions I express to that.

Therefore, I came to the conclusion that my duty to myself is to remain calm and let each one of you solve what corresponds to you.

I have taken courses in yoga, meditation, miracles, human development, mental hygiene, vibration and neurolinguistic programming and in all of them, I found a common denominator in them all…

I can only control myself. You have all the necessary resources to solve your own problems, despite how hard they may be. My job is to pray for you, love on you, encourage you, but it’s up to YOU to solve them and find your happiness.

I can only give you my advice if you ask me and it depends on you to follow it or not. There are consequences, good or bad, to your decisions and YOU have to live them.

So from now on, I cease to be the receptacle of your responsibilities, the sack of your guilt, the laundress of your remorse, the advocate of your faults, the wall of your lamentations, the depositary of your duties, who should solve your problems or spare a tire every time to fulfill your responsibilities.

From now on, I declare all independent and self-sufficient adults.

Everyone at my mom’s house was speechless.

From that day on, the family began to function better because everyone in the house knew exactly what it is that they needed to do.
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For some of us this is hard because we’ve grown up being the caregivers and feeling responsible for others. As moms and wives, we are fixers of all things. We never want our loved ones to go through difficult things or to struggle. We want everyone to be happy.

But, the sooner we take that responsibility off of our shoulders and onto each loved one, the better we are preparing them to be MEsponsible.

We are not here on Earth to be everything to everyone. Stop putting that pressure on yourself.

Much Love, xoxo

JoyfulChange
(shared from a friend)

Published by Joyful Change With Yvonne

Joyful Change is embracing the journey to health and wellness of mind, body and spirit. Sometimes we need a little hand holding and support as we process life school. I am here to help you as a Companion and Mentor.

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