How many times have you told yourself you’ll deal with it tomorrow? Like Scarlett O’Hara, many of us think “Tomorrow is another day,” and we have plenty of time to do ‘it’ – whatever ‘it’ is. But what if we change the way we are thinking and instead get started today, even if it’s a baby step forward in order to get ‘it’ done?
What if we change our perspective on those things that are bogging us down that we don’t want to do? Instead of repeating, “I have to (whatever the dreaded job is)” with that dour dreaded feeling in our solar plexus, we changed it to; “I get to (insert dreaded job)”? Can you feel the change in the feeling of that sentence?
Now, you might tell me that it’s still the same darn thing and it’s true. The fact remains that the dreaded job needs to be accomplished, but when we change the perspective, it can make it easier for you.
Let’s try it. Imagine some job that you’ve been procrastinating on doing for a long time. It’s not one that you want to do, but that you have to do and you don’t want to deal with it.
Got the dreaded job in your head? Good. Ok. Now let’s get quiet for a moment. Repeat after me.
I have to (insert dreaded job).
Tap into the feelings you’re having when you say that sentence above. How does that make you feel? Lousy? Resentful perhaps? Annoyed? Guilty?
Deep breath. Shake it off and now try this. Repeat after me.
I get to (dreaded job).
Now check in with yourself. Does the change make it easier for you to think about the dreaded job? Does it feel a bit better? Can you feel your perspective change to a more positive one?
I use this method to do what I don’t want to do all the time. It helps when I additionally add:
and I am excited to get it off my to do list! I can’t wait until it’s over so I can celebrate. What will I do for me as a treat?
Hey, you have to do what works for you, but I like to give myself a treat after checking off something that I dread doing on my To Do list. Don’t you?
Give this a try and let me know how it works for you!