Autumn embraces change, even as she is falling to pieces. ~ Angie Weiland Crosby
When an abrupt change occurs, we have options in how we view it. We can close our eyes to the impactful change, hoping to not have to deal with it (because frankly we’d rather not upend our lives). Or we can face it head on, see it for what it is and move forward in the best way we know how. One other option is to sit with it, see the change and how it’s happened and what it brings, from all sides, as if it’s a sphere and then plan as we move forward to how we want this change to unfold positively.
Always it is your choice in how you view change, but it helps when you can talk it out with a trusted friend. At least that’s the way it’s been for me. I am a verbal processor as it’s called. I write to process, but I also like the give and take with trusted friends.
I’ve experienced many changes in my life that were impactful. Cancer, divorce, financial difficulties, just to name a few. As I’ve evolved over the years, I find that choosing to embrace the change that’s here makes it easier, even when the change that’s happened feels negative.
There’s always a positive light that you can find once you choose to look for it.
Breast Cancer made me appreciate life more. I found my inner strength which I never really knew I had. I found the power of prayer, believing that I could endure whatever hardships came my way. Additionally, I was able to use my experiences to help others who were going through cancer – to walk with them on that path, to hold their hands when needed, to lift their spirits and to guide them. There’s nothing like having someone understand what you’re going through because they’ve experienced the same.
Divorce broke my heart and my world as I knew it collapsed on all sides, even financially. It was a complete and utter change of lifestyle, of family, of location and belief system. It crushed me. It made me question so much in my life and as I looked at the broken puzzle pieces, that were my life, strewn around me, I took time to mourn. Eventually, I began to pick up those puzzles pieces and really look at each aspect of my life because I knew that in reassembling my life, there were some parts I no longer needed, nor desired anymore. They just didn’t fit with my authentic self. It was a rebuilding of my core beliefs and my circle of friends, along with what I treasured most. I found strength in those precious little moments for which I am so grateful. Piece by piece my life has been rebuilt in ways I had never imagined. A new chapter in my life that I hadn’t chosen, but I am ever grateful for that present.
The key is to embrace the change even when you don’t want it. Because the gifts that change brings are unimaginable in the moment, but full of blessings in the end. It’s all how you put the puzzle pieces of your life back together.