Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.Louise Hay
Affirmations are helpful in improving self-esteem and changing the mindset joyfully. It’s allowing what is divinely yours to be delivered in perfect timing. It’s about feeling that you have some decorum of control in your life. You are the author of your own life’s journey even when the circumstances feel like an uphill climb. You have the strength within you. You simply need to tap into the knowingness of your innate wisdom. If you need a few affirmations, the last few posts have given you a few to try out.
So if you’ve got that inner critical voice that you wouldn’t use with your best friend if the situations were reversed, then it’s time to make a Joyful Change in your life. Approve of yourself! You’re doing the best you can with what you’ve got. Sure there may be times when you look back and see how you could have acted differently in a situation, but I have found that many people simply beat themselves up over those moments over and over, but to what end? What does criticizing yourself do for you except to make you feel worse? I’m not saying that you should approve of the awful things. No, not at all. But the day to day silly mistakes are simply just that – silly mistakes – so take more time before impulsively acting. Bite your tongue before answering when you feel grouchy. Think before you speak, before you act and see how that goes. Sometimes we find that the merest moment of pause can help immensely.
When you tap into that critical voice, whose is it? Is it a parent? A boss? You? Uncovering how that voice came to have so much strength is helpful in order to change the way you speak to yourself.
Another way to help is to imagine you’re speaking with your friend in whatever critical situation you find yourself in. How would you speak to your friend is how you should speak to yourself. Can you try that?
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome. Not that I’m implying you’re insane, but many of us keep trying in the same way, hoping that this time whatever we’re doing will work.
How about making a Joyful Change now by approving of yourself? Just see how it works!