Trust was always a big issue for me especially after the divorce, amongst the other changes in my life. So trusting the process of life was not on my list of Top 10. It didn’t make me feel good and saying this affirmation was akin to having to fear factor my way through a bowl of the worst, most detestable imaginable food. In other words, I didn’t want to do it. No way. No how.
It took a long time to heal and to learn to trust again. To trust the process of life was a big hurdle because until enough time had passed, I couldn’t see the bigger picture and be grateful for the gifts that came out of the upheavals I’d endured. To count the blessings that came from them took courage, took time and introspection, as well as a healthy, wide-eyed realistic look at the before and after. Was it fun? No. Was it necessary? Yes! Am I happy I did it? Absolutely!
Dare I tell you about my theory that is based on one of my favorite books, The Little Soul and The Sun by Neale Donald Walsch? Have you ever read it? It’s a children’s book, but it impacted me in such a profound way that I use it to help others.
We gain wisdom through experiences, so the more varied your life experiences, the more wisdom you potentially gain. I have noticed over the years that when the lesson we are to learn isn’t learned, the lessons reappear, repeating with each experience and increasing in depth of emotion until we come to peace within for all of it.
Trusting that the process of life is for us and not against us is a key factor in being our most authentic selves. Accepting the experiences and how they’ve changed our lives allows us to increase the peace in our lives. I believe we signed up to experience certain situations in order to increase our life school and soul wisdom. But we forget what we chose while up there with our soul family before we were born and so sometimes we are flabbergasted by these traumatic events that come into our lives. Well, let me rephrase for myself, most of the time I was flabbergasted. But in believing that this was all part of the plan, the soul contract, I was able to learn the lessons, accept those involved and find peace in the new normal. Additionally, I was able to forgive, myself and others, for it all. After processing the events, I was able to understand the lessons in order to help the next person with the trust that if I was able to come through that experience, I could help them to do the same.
And that’s why I named my blog – Joyful Change – do you understand now?