This isn’t a post about work (aka jobs) although we can talk about that in another post. This is about working through your issues while we’re in the year 2020 where hindsight is 20/20 and memories are coming to the surface for you to deal with them and work through the feelings and the issues that arise.
I know. It sounds like a stinky task that nobody wants to take on and I don’t blame you for shaking your head in refusal. Because really, who wants to relive difficult times? I know I didn’t until I realized that they kept plaguing me because I hadn’t dealt with them once and for all.
2020 is for clearing out the muck and for cleansing the repetitious patterns that continue to pop up because we haven’t dealt with them thoroughly. It takes patience, time and a willingness to re-look at situations and events from an observer point of view. We need to see with the mind’s eye what our reactions were, delve into why we reacted that way and what belief was behind it in order to allow healing. Otherwise, the feelings and beliefs continue to crop up in our lives in different ways.
Does any of this make sense to you? It’s a process that begins with taking a memory and the outcome of whatever that memory brings to the surface – the feelings, the energy, the relationships that surrounded it – and working through it. Allowing the feelings to emerge again whether they are sadness, low self-worth, shame, etc. and connecting the feelings to the life lesson so that we can move through the memory knowing that we have learned from its experience. And then, taking that knowledge to add to our toolbox of life.
Writing down the memory as it unfolds helps as well for it gives us the perspective when we read the passages later. Some form of distance helps us to dive in as an observer and to see what triggers us and how the memory feels now that time has passed. If the memory is one that is more recent, then it may be wise to see if it is a repetitious emotion that is coming up again.
We can do it alone although it helps to have someone else to be insightful and to gather the bits and pieces of the memory to be able to help you to see it in its entirety. This is where I can help you if needed. As a Companion and Mentor, I am here to help you.