We’ve all got a story that we tell ourselves. In our mind’s eye, it’s the truth and it’s how we see what’s happened. While we may be right, sometimes what we’ve determined is the story, is in fact, not the whole truth. It’s a version of how we remember what happened, but maybe not exactly what did happen.
Does that make sense to you?
Example: I had a client whose husband left her and her children after decades of marriage. She still loved him and couldn’t understand how he could have just left without explanation. At one point she said, “I still love him,” and even though it was a plaintive cry, after all she had previously told me, I wasn’t sure. Together we navigated through that sentence to realize that ‘her story’ that she loved him was only partially true. Yes, she loved her STBX (soon-to-be-ex), but what she felt so strongly about was that she loved who he had been as a partner when life was good between them. She loved the man she once knew. But the changed man, the new stranger he had become, she realized she didn’t know, nor love in the same way. This was a turning point for her – a Joyful Change – that sparked a new beginning of change for her in the way she was thinking about the divorce and the break up. It allowed her to let go and to heal in time.
Example Limiting Beliefs: Another client wanted to do something, but was afraid to do it. Her limiting beliefs were getting in her way. She had a list of reasons why she couldn’t fulfill her goals and they were solidly bedrocked in her mind. No amount of encouragement from her friends and family changed her mind. But what changed her mind? She did after together we took a look at her list of reasons and dug through the limiting beliefs that were enmeshed there. Once she could see more clearly, she chose to go after her dream and make a Joyful Change in her life.
Example: He was angry that his business wasn’t taking off. He’d isolated himself and wasn’t able to relate with others. He was irritable and frustrated. He was blaming his situation instead of looking for solutions. With help, he was able to find other avenues in marketing and refresh his business and attitude. Sometimes clinging to a concept that isn’t working keeps us closed-minded. Releasing old patterns and embracing a Joyful Change in all facets of life lifts us up to a garden of possibilities instead of a cage made of brick walls. We are only as stuck as we choose to be.
So what’s your story?
I am here to help you to unravel it so that you can make the Joyful Change you deserve in your life. Reach out as I’m here to hold your hand as we process the situation together!